Coming out as gay at 33 is hard. When most kids were finding out who they were in high school, I was busy hiding who I was. Now, I’m working on developing that person with the added pressures of being an adult and sometimes it just feels like too much. In this article, I talk about how I’ve learned to cope. Sober, in peace, and effectively.
Read MoreI didn't think this blog would lead to me coming out as gay, but it did and when it did, I didn't think there was much left to share, but there is. There is more to share now than ever and for me it's more important than ever to share it all. The good, the bad and the ugly. Here’s to a new journey!
Read MoreThe final fear I had to face in the trials to triathlon story is revealed in this post. It is finally time to accept fully who I am, regardless of the consequences and step out with pride and confidence. I’m gay.
But, what does this all mean? What is going to change? What is next?
Read MoreSimilar to how just not drinking didn’t help me become sober, straight up exercise never worked for me. Time and time again I have wound up relapsing back onto the couch with potato chips, pizza and Netflix. This article discussing the three things triathlon helps bring to my life to keep me focused on healthy living.
Read MorePutting down the drugs and alcohol helped me to finally experience life and in this article I talk about the ways it helps propel me towards being the athlete I dream of being.
Read MoreIs triathlon necessary? Not for everyone. In fact, I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone. It is a personal destiny decision that I was put on to learn some valuable things about life, that otherwise, I just wasn’t learning. So if you are having trouble learning these 7 valuable lessons, then triathlon may be just the thing to smack you upside the head and force you to grow up too.
Read MoreGratitude & Acceptance. A topic we hear about far too often in recovery, but not much in athletic journals. In this article I present how the lack of these virtues crippled me and the acknowledgement has helped me to excel in endurance training.
Read MoreTrials to triathlon is a story about my relapses during recovery and each relapse relates to three separate fears: self, intimacy, failure. Without dealing with these fears I would never have recovered from this seemingly hopeless disease of addiction. Triathlon was is vehicle that brought these fears to my consciousness and helped me to better myself.
Read MoreSpiritual living comes through consciously, mindfully and deliberately using action and behaviors to help others while seeking to use your gifts to help make the world become a better place. Before doing this I had to recognize my gifts by first taking the plank out of my eyes, just like the good book says.
Read MoreFollow along as I explain how this blog has helped me to overcome fear and begin experiencing a quality of life that I never dreamed possible. Drawing from words written by renowned endurance Coach, Taylor Thomas, I put my process into an application that anyone can follow.
Read MoreLearning how to be a peace within the mind is the first step towards maximum living. Bodily health begins to bring things all together. It makes that which is on the inside show on the outside. This has been a crucial part of my recovery. Triathlon and healthy living have helped me believe things about myself that were once illusions left for dreams. The good news: It’s not that hard!
Read MoreSwimming and anxiety go together like peanut butter and jelly. Swimming has helped me with my anxiety and the breathing and mindfulness exercises for anxiety has helped me become a better swimmer. Here I introduce an article from an Author who has also found swimming has helped with his anxiety.
Read MoreThe past year has been marked with many accomplishments, much struggle, and incredible growth. The new year used to arise feelings of shame and guilt. I would be bogged down, restless and worn out as we approached a new calendar year, but this year is different. In this article I explain a few elements that have become habits which I contribute to my growth in the face of adversity and struggle.
Read MoreThe past two months have seen a lot of changes. In this post I draw on nightmarish memories from my past and show how today when the same events came up I dealt with them by looking at things through a new lens. This change of focus has brought miracles to my life in the form of relationship, family, jobs and activities that I never would have dreamed of while in the mire of addiction.
Read MoreFor many years I used drugs, alcohol and other risky behaviors to steady my bi-polar symptoms. However, through the patience and love of my wife and close family I have learned to see gifts in areas I once thought were hopeless. They stuck with me through relapse and hardships and this showed me that if I push through each time I can come out with love again and again.
Read MoreI have been a perfectionist who wants results quickly. This worked in a few areas of my life- like strength training. However, the stress this requires does not work for long distance triathlon. The stress this requires does not work for recovery. I had to learn to take it easy on myself in recovery and now I have to learn to do this in training. The results are longevity- and these are the results I need in both training and recovery.
Read MoreI have run into a physical block. My heart rate is not matching with my exertion output and I am experiencing signs of chronic fatigue. This has come at a perfect time, but how will I recover. Recovery has never been easy for me, it is not in my blood. Hence, why I became a heroin junkie and why I couldn’t ever put down the bottle no matter how sick I became. This is a new lesson worth reflecting on.
Read MoreFreedom Using love, Not Others: Love is about giving and love can set you free. Sharing to you is how I express my love, it frees me from trauma.
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