Coming out as gay at 33 is hard. When most kids were finding out who they were in high school, I was busy hiding who I was. Now, I’m working on developing that person with the added pressures of being an adult and sometimes it just feels like too much. In this article, I talk about how I’ve learned to cope. Sober, in peace, and effectively.
Read MoreBody Shaming happens we make someone feel ugly, gross, and unworthy because of their body type and I've experienced it in every phase of my development. When someone asked me how I built confidence in my body, I was instantly drawn to question my own confidence and face my own shame.
Read MoreI didn't think this blog would lead to me coming out as gay, but it did and when it did, I didn't think there was much left to share, but there is. There is more to share now than ever and for me it's more important than ever to share it all. The good, the bad and the ugly. Here’s to a new journey!
Read MoreSimilar to how just not drinking didn’t help me become sober, straight up exercise never worked for me. Time and time again I have wound up relapsing back onto the couch with potato chips, pizza and Netflix. This article discussing the three things triathlon helps bring to my life to keep me focused on healthy living.
Read MoreIn this article I reflect on 12 of the emotionally challenging days of my life. The experience has taught me many things about myself. Most importantly, however, are the invaluable lessons learned about love, intimacy and relationships in my life today. I am learning these are the greatest of all the gifts that have been bestowed in sobriety.
Read MoreThe past two months have seen a lot of changes. In this post I draw on nightmarish memories from my past and show how today when the same events came up I dealt with them by looking at things through a new lens. This change of focus has brought miracles to my life in the form of relationship, family, jobs and activities that I never would have dreamed of while in the mire of addiction.
Read MoreBy the time the hurricane came to the Wilmington North Carolina coast I had lost sight that my decision to do the Ironman was to help others. When I began to experience anger towards the possibility of a cancelled race I knew something was wrong. Compassion not anger should fill the hearts of men during times of disaster. It was time to reassess my place.
Read MoreI have been a perfectionist who wants results quickly. This worked in a few areas of my life- like strength training. However, the stress this requires does not work for long distance triathlon. The stress this requires does not work for recovery. I had to learn to take it easy on myself in recovery and now I have to learn to do this in training. The results are longevity- and these are the results I need in both training and recovery.
Read MoreThe path to get to where I am today is not paved in roses. This article is a raw, unfiltered glimpse into a dark place that lies deep within the library of my past.
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